Men look for Sex and Women look for Affection

It was yet another random conversations i had.
With a random anonymous girl on MSN. Read on...

joshuaongys says:
ask u
men need sex and women need affection
agree or not?
anonymous says:
haha not really
joshuaongys says:
den..
anonymous says:
women need affection
guys need trust and approval
joshuaongys says:
trust and approval
hmm
elaborate
anonymous says:
hmm well
like if a guy feels like his gf accepts him for who he is, and not try to make him change
and trusts him in whatever he does, and approves whatever he does
then he can love better
joshuaongys says:
wahh
anonymous says:
thats why guys dont like it when girls say "maybe we should ask for directions"
joshuaongys says:
best..
anonymous says:
he will feel like the girl dont trust him, like he dont know how to go to that place
joshuaongys says:
pls tell every other girls dat!
anonymous says:
guys need love and care and all la
but trust and approval comes first
followed by the rest
do you think thats true
joshuaongys says:
in some way yes its true
can u like go tell every other girl in this world
cuz many girls out there are like, i wana change my guy i wana change my guy yer why he like dat wan this dat...
anonymous says:
its like that wan la
joshuaongys says:
and sometimes i wonder den why at the first place u accept him duh
anonymous says:
cause guys and girls are diff, you should know
girls think that there's always room for improvement
joshuaongys says:
so sometimes u're lidat also lo hahaha
anonymous says:
when they love something, they will try to make it better
i try not to be lor
but it's girl's nature
guys is like if something is fine, don't fix it
it takes training la
girls show their love by offering suggestions and all
but guys "respect" each other by not offering help unless they are asked
two different things
but if a guy feels that his gf loves and accepts him
he himself will try to change himself
joshuaongys says:
CORRECT!
anonymous says:
like decide to go gym etc
joshuaongys says:
BINGO
anonymous says:
yaaaaaaaa true right
i noticed too
haha
i tell my boy that
and after a while, he wants to diet and all
joshuaongys says:
lol
u genius
why u so clever wan
anonymous says:
i read a book
haha
joshuaongys says:
..................
cheh
anonymous says:
WOI
HAHAHA
so bad
at least i learn ok -_-
everyone should read lor
if not they would never understand
girls think that guys should think like them
joshuaongys says:
shud go thru it b4
anonymous says:
vice versa
joshuaongys says:
better than reading it
anonymous says:
we all go through it
just dont realize
joshuaongys says:
hahah
how bout guys side hmmm
jz now was on the girls side
tell me bout the guys side
anonymous says:
what about guys side?
joshuaongys says:
wat should guys do
how guys act generally
anonymous says:
well like i said just now, guys offer solution only when they are asked
if you noticed, girls like to complain
esp if they have a bad day
and guys will always try to "fix it"
best thing to do is listen
and try to understand
and just let them talk until puas
when puas, tell them like
"oh you had such a bad day, let me give you a hug"

and the conversation went on and wandered of somewhere else eventually. Anyways, its some common general stuffs/problems among boys and girls/men and women. Started from a statement that i heard previously from someone - "Men look for Sex and Women look for Affection".

From what i think, generally, Men do not look for sex ultimately but YES Women DO look for affection ultimately. In this age where most people insist on equal rights for both females and males, the strong almighty position of the males is really weakening already throughout the years and the more softer side of the males were shown with more females being independent having full control of their own lives.

Being on the side of the male myself, i must say that acceptance and understanding is what i'm looking for, and of course affection as well which involves love and care.

With lotsa girls nowadays who tried very hard to change every bit of their bf nowadays rather than totally accepting them for who they are, i find it pretty funny that why at the first place they would want to be with the guy then. Well of course, no offence to the girls, its something most girls need to go through.

Same goes to the guys, that we need to be a little bit more sensitive, less forgetful, and paying more attention to the girlfriend plus other more stuffs to cover as well being in a relationship. With that saying, i am still in the life-long process of learning. Not an easy lesson but it's definitely a very interesting and rewarding one i must say. =)

and about how this whole blog post was started with the statement :
"Men look for Sex and Women look for Affection".

There's a reason why God put us human as the rulers of the world and not any other living beings on earth and obviously, there's a big difference between dogs and humans. That's if you understand what i'm saying.
*of course, there's always some exception where some people are in a very sick & serious state already getting addicted to it. and i do believe that every single person seeks love ultimately.

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The Best Damn Thing

I don't know where to start this. Nor i know how to describe about all this. Sigh.

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Its quite complicated, all the pieces that connects everything together, bringing stuffs together making all the things possible up till this day. Never in my life i would imagine that this run would be this long.

There were lots of sweats, not to mention love and care. It was quite a long way if you ask me. Many would say that Wow, that's amazing. Its crazy!

From a simple question : a/s/l? way back in the era of ICQ where i got the contact through some forum i used to be active in, it evolved into daily smses and calls. With many topics to talk about till just a few same topic going on and on. From excitement and adventurous to matured and steady and feeling all comfortable being with each other.

It was quite an interesting ride i must say, a ride in this phase of my life where i would not dare to imagine myself being in it years ago. A ride with a person whom is special to me.

A person where people would asked me from time to time about its existence which remains mysterious up till today. Some people still do not know that there's this person. For me i just kept it anonymous revealing it from time to time whenever i wanted to, but for most of the time, i don't really talk directly about it to everyone and show the whole world about it. That is of course for certain reason. Lets not even talk about why. =)

Back to the ride, there were uncountable precious moments, happy ones, struggling ones, memorable ones, interesting ones and more of course where every of them played an important role in making this whole ride possible for the two of us.

Up till today, i couldn't really ask for more. Really, i am contented.

It's been 6 years(approx.) already. I have no idea how will things go after tomorrow, but one thing i know, i have no regrets. At All!

After all...

You're the best damn thing that happen in my life.
and i thank GOD for you!

Please DO take care. *smile*

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Girls Nowadays

Not long ago, i added this person on Facebook whom i knew a few years back through some dance event.

and i chatted with him on Facebook and the conversation went on like this.

4.50pm MrH
Helo Mr Joshua, long time no see

4:54pmJoshua
hey hi hahaha yea very very long already
since ermmm when ar dance conference?

4:55pm MrH
I see you have grown into a handsome young man now. Me, age really catching up

4:56pmJoshua
i'm not hahaha you've been cheated by pictures

4:57pmMrH
Well, still ,when you are young , you tend to look better

4:58pmJoshua
no... i have lots of pimples O.O

4:58pmMrH
Getting matured then

4:59pmJoshua
hahahah dats what most ppl say

4:59pmMrH
Dont worry lah, girls dont care about pimples one, they care about what you have in your poket

5:07pmJoshua
hahahaha which i dont have

It was a short conversation and it ended there and i had a good laugh then and then.

So what am i trying to say here? I'm saying that nowadays, the world around us have change very much and its really really different from what we used to listen - those grandmother love stories of ages ago which are really really very encouraging, inspiring that gives you hope in a relationship.

Story like a girl and a guy insist in getting together, having their own family despite their poor condition and environment, especially financially, both of them didn't give up on each other and they went through the hardships together.

Girls nowadays are really pretty materialistic. Though not all but MOST of them are.

Lets not say about other places, just in KL alone, for guys, you don't have a car, you don't have money, the percentage of you getting a girlfriend AND LAST for a long time is extremely low. You need money for everything. In most cases, the girl will expect the guy to pay for everything whenever they go out, everything including petrol money, money for food and the money to buy other misc stuffs. Slowly, girls from other states are also having the same mentality already.

BARE in mind, it's a relationship and it is in BOTH ways.

I've heard about a girl that have a boyfriend that loves her very much and they are both quite a couple among their group of friends. But this specific girl, though admit loving the boyfriend very much, and they were happy together, all of a sudden, she dumped the boyfriend and went to couple with a rich dude who beats her up occasionally and the rich dude is pretty "flowery", AND STILL the girl don't want to go back to her ex-bf even though the ex-boyfriend said that he don't mind getting back with her.

and there are lots of stories out there which is similar to this which i'm sure you've heard of it before.

I understand that girls want to find someone whom they can count on and is financially stable, but in life, everything can't be perfect. Furthermore, THESE so called guys whom girls normally think THEY can count on and is "financially stable" nowadays are normally those spoiled kids who is spending their dad's money like water and these girls are stupid enough to think that THEY CAN CHANGE THEM!!

It's not a wrong thing to find some guy like that, but do look around before you aim for "gold eggs". There might be suitable guy for you around, though not very rich but is financially stable and these guys are able to give happiness.

Of course, there are still girls that are totally different from what i said above, girls that are so rare nowadays that most of them are already taken, some are even married leading a happy life.

and adding on on that, of course there are guys that are such a "lubangbuntut" that they don't appreciate those girls that have been there for them.

i'm not in a position to say ALL girls are like that but from what i see, most of the girls around are like that. =X

Why did i write in a way that you might think i'm biased is because i've seen many guys around me, guys who are really good, guys who will surely be loyal to their gfs if they have one but failed in getting one because the girls around them are somehow like what i've said above.

By the way, Friendster is really getting more and more crappier.

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9 More Months

Thanks to you i'm once again reminded. The time remaining for the both of us.

First of all, i would like to let you know that this post is not made for you to be upset and please DO NOT BE upset as i want you to smile and be happy.

Alright. Where was i? Oh yea, remaining time.

Its quite funny you know whenever i thought of this, when people are like discussing and looking forward on the future with hopes in their eyes, we're discussing about the future that no longer have us in the same picture.

but yet we can still be in such condition.

all the missing and caring is not cooling down but instead becoming more and more.

and so, i really do hope that in this period where the picture still exist, things can be as smooth as possible with all the laughter with less tear drops. Memories remain to be happy ones when we recall it back in the future.

I've been trying my very best not to do or say anything that would cause a =( on the face but i've failed at times, yet i'm still trying and i do hope that i can achieve that 100% =) by end of this year. Alright maybe 90%. =X

So, i really hope that whenever problems/issues happen, please do think before making a statement or conveying your message. For sure, i'm not any good than you in this matter, but i just want to say that a message or statement can be made in a more positive approach. =)

at the end of the day, i just hope that you'll be a bit more happy with more smile on your face. This 9 months will be the best. I Hope.
*of course i still hope that its beyond that period of time... =(

Take care & Love Ya lots. *smiles*

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triggered thoughts on blog hopping

Random blog hopping can be very very fun at times. Fun when you stumble upon blogs like this. You can really gain many interesting information on stuffs around the world if you happen to hop in the right blogs.

and at times, you will come upon some post which is full of anger and emotions. Post like this below. The author of the post was really angry with a specific person.

The couple mentioned in this post. Its really a sad case i would say. If what written in the post is true, the guy must have been enduring much pain all these while. These kind of self-centred person mentioned in the post above acting in such a manner is really a pain in the ass.

and yes, i personally knew, seen, heard of such person existing around me/my group of friends and i am disturbed by how a person can act in such a manner. In a relationship, there'll be ups and downs i know but is there a need for the "specific person" to be so mean & cruel almost all the time?

I do think that such people are really incredibly unbelievable, let me share with you another example which i know of doing pointless stuffs hurting the other party in a relationship. I wouldnt say the person is of which gender. Lets say, A and B.

A took B's handphone and went ahead to delete B's handphone contact entries, the entries which is the people of the opposite sex of B, of course, the family member of B was spared but what is this? Why the removing??

Unbelievable? but its true!

I mean like, in a relationship, it should be a 2 way interaction, 2 side toleration and etc. Everything goes in between 2 parties and not just from one side to the other side. Sigh.

Of course, the one party who choose to keep quiet and endure all the sucky moments is to me, an idiot as well. The person do not know how to love himself/herself, so i would boldly make a statement that these kind of relationships won't last long. One who do not know how to love himself/herself won't know how to love the other part of his/her life.

Ahh, did i wander too far away??

Lolx, after all, its the thoughts that came into my mind after reading the post. Some random ones + some which i've been thinking all these while as well.

Love is a life learning topic and i'm still learning~ =)

*maybe i'm wrong in some part of this post i wrote, do correct me then. =p

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Getting Married on a Plane

I know this is random, but i cant stop it!! I just felt like blogging about this.

My friend just showed me this which is on the SinChew Newspaper Website.

London, England 5 August 2008

1000 Feet above sea level...

3 planes

The wedding of Katie Hodgson and Darren McWalters

Bride on left most plane
Pastor in the middle plane conducting the wedding
Groom on the right most plane

“I ask you therefore, will you love her, honor and keep her and be faithful to her so long as you both shall live?” Bringham yelled.

“I will!” McWalters yelled back.

ain't this WONDERFUL??

To me this is the coolest wedding ever!!

Not everyone dare to do this OK!! Not even me, or i would say i do not have the money to have such wedding also. =X

To me, wedding is one occasion of a lifetime. That means that there can only be a wedding for one person(well unless your spouse cheated on you/died). The idea of divorcing with the other party shouldn't be in both minds for the rest of their lives once they get married. They should be committed to each other, tolerating each other and solve the problems that come along the way. Solving it NOT BY divorcing.

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"Marriage should be honored by all, and the marriage bed kept pure, for God will judge the adulterer and all the sexually immoral."

Hebrews 13:4
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To find someone who can click with you is hard, to find someone who can click with you and WANTS to be with you the whole life is even harder, to find someone who can do those and love you whole heartedly putting aside the bad things on you, to find someone who can really spent time being with you and facing everything with you be it happy or sad.

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'And that a man will leave his father and mother, and be forever united to his wife. The two shall become one - no longer two, but one in matrimony! And no man may divorce what God has joined together'.

Matthew 19:5-6
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Its an AMAZING life time experience altogether. I'm not in that position yet, but i do hope i can be there somewhere in the future. Its not and its never easy to get there.


and YES i strongly object polygamy!! Its pretty crappy for one person to have more than 1 person in his/her heart. So... yea..

Enjoy your day peeps!!~

Related Link :
DailyMail.co.uk

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love is

Here's a list of definition for love from TheBible itself...

Love

~ Love suffers long and its kind
~ Love does not envy
~ Love does not parade itself
~ Love is not puffed up
~ Love does not behave rudely
~ Love does not seek its own
~ Love is not provoked
~ Love thinks no evil
~ Love does not rejoice in iniquity
~ Love rejoice in the truth
~ Love bears all things
~ Love believes all things
~ Love hopes all things
~ Love endures all things
~ Love never fails

1 Corinthians 13

Author ::::::: The Bible

so, what do you think about that, are you sure you know whats love?? think twice before you say i love you to someone.. especially to those who always add the word "forever" behind i love you and say it to their [ bfs/gfs ] whom they just couple not long ago....

well, no offence, this is to entertain you >< cheers

may those who really found their LOVE ones can last forever

Peaze

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